Breathe

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See, that’s what the app is perfect for.

Sounds perfect Wahhhh, I don’t wanna
nikasholistic
nikasholistic

Tuning into your inner world is so important. Your inner world is the foundation for your outer world. If you want to create for yourself a harmonious reality, you need to take care of your belief system, habitual thinking patterns, and habitual emotions. 

If you’re not aware of what’s going on in your inner world, you’re basically running on autopilot. And if you want to harmonize your reality, you need to let go of the autopilot mode. You need to let go of creating your reality by default and start creating your reality by design.

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thatbitchery
thatbitchery

Babe I need you to unlearn the need for people to co-sign with you for you to take steps into your future or be happy about your progress because they wont. People don't sign up for the process the sign up for the results and the pain of success is the process is lonely and almost no one actually roots for you to win. Until you get successful no one cares. At all. No one. It's harsh but it's life.

Other day I had perfect advice for a family member that could change their life but they paid no attention to it. Mom told me- get rich first. No one will take you seriously if you have no authority in this life and beauty and money are the ultimate authority in a woman's life. The example she gave was back when she was broke af no one cared about her ideas and dreams but once the money started coming in even her mother was thirsty for her opinion.When I was watching You Tube videos on skincare and telling everyone around me what to do with their skin no one took me seriously, all I got is a know-it-all title that drove a rift between me and mine because damn I'm just trying to help?? Too naive to realize people don't want help they want coddling and sympathy. Fast forward to when I actually started taking care of my skin and dieting and looking hot and now the same people in my dms talking about omg you're glowing!! What's the secret?? Why? Because I carry with me the authority of beauty and results. Back then I'd try to get my sister to do skincare and dieting with me, she said she would but never took off so I didn't take off with it, I needed the co-signong of it. It's only now that I have results that she wants to talk about a food timetable- that's the power of results.

I need you to understand right now you'll have to do it alone and the only power of influence you'll have is results. When you need people to cosign with your vision for you to chase it you'll be stuck. Even in job interviews they require experience, show us the results first then you'll get the opportunity. I understand that the human species is a tribal species, a social one and in some innate way we must have someone to share the experience with or our success is basically void and useless. That's the fabric of our species, you can't unneed that, but you can postpone it. The female of our species is wired to want and need kids from the second your PMS hit and some of us NEVER have kids, even though the desire is innate and biological our logical need and desire to achieve before we procreate or never is stronger. Practice this form of abstinence on your social aspect in terms of your goals and overdose on your social aspect in terms of friends and family, or find the birth control version of your need to cosign / share the experience. If you're lucky enough to co-sign with people that are actually interested and believe in you drop the tutorial babe don't be shy ;)

littlemisshaveitall
thatbitchery

Truth is the glow up most of you are looking for is called decentering everyone else (especially men) and centering yourself.

'I don't do it for them I do it for me' okay then why do you only use your best cutlery for visitors. Why do you only use your best perfume and dress when going out with friends?? Only wear your cute lingerie for that boy/girl?? Whyyy do you have to bring up your future plans 169669 times to people you know are not listening and will invalidate you? In fact unless they're investing in them why are you telling anyone your future plans at all?? Why did you wear all that make up just to take pics and post just to delete because they didn't get enough likes or Mr iliveinmynonsbasemateandimanincel said you're a 4 on a good day?? Why does that matter?? Why is it important to you that everyone knows you had an A and are moving out next month?? If you don't do it for them why are you so desperate to show them???

Decenter people from your life and make yourself the center of gravity, the axis by which your universe spins. Until you learn to think 'do I like them? Am I impressed by them? Do they add value to me????' Over 'do they like me?? Did my 25 detailed year plan for the future make me cool to them?? Am I feminine enough for him??' You haven't had a glow up.

I is the word you need. Me, myself, I. You'd rather be a narcissist than a people pleaser. I said what i said. Rather be a loner than a omg let me bend over so they have a flat surface when they walk on me kind of girl. Babe your mom doesn't care that your skin looks better, she hasn't for the past 21 years she won't now. That boy cares how fast your legs go open he has no idea what types of eyeliner exists. Those girls at school genuinely only care about your existence when they gossip. And EVEN ON THE BRIGHT SIDE, say, your dad really does care you had an A. So??? So your friends really liked your outfit. That's cool, I won't take anything from that, it's great. It's just, approval should be a SIDE EFFECT that means almost nothing past six seconds of seterotonin spike, not the driving force.

Positive feedback is the same level of destructive as negative feedback, opinions and validations shouldn't be the center.


The ultimate glow up is damn I deserve those pretty mugs and to smell like Dior every day and look hot every occasion and I deserve to stay in in my pj's regardless if the president is visiting and do I like them?? Who cares if they like me, do I like them??